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Movies with a message

Hi all,

On the topic of ‘movies with a message’, can anyone suggest a movie that might be helpful with our Male Violence Against Women group? We hope to use it as a jumping off point for discussion.

I appreciate any suggestions.

Barb Phillips
Youth Care Counsellor


There is a movie called 'Ladybird Ladybird' that is an excellent portrayal of a family in crisis. It is set in Britain in the 1980's and explores a woman's ongoing struggle with social services. It also explores issues related to domestic violence. It might be difficult to get your hands on, but it is well worth the effort.


John Byrne

A very gripping and powerful drama I would recommend in this context is “Nil by Mouth“, UK, 1997, directed and written by Gary Oldman, starring Ray Winstone, Kathy Burke.

Manfred Humer

"Once were warriors" is a brutal nihilistic movie that focuses on the Maori traditions of masculinity and gender as well as their tribal culture. I would strongly suggest you watch it first to gauge it's suitability though .


Hi Barb,

I don’t have one for domestic violence but a good one for violence against women in the form of sexual exploitation is “Where did you sleep last night?”. It is about a young girl being lured into sexual exploitation by and older male. You can get this one off of the NFB website.

Also, “Tears for April” from the Odd Squad about a girl that is heavily involved in street life and has addictions who gets murdered. Hope these help!

Lorinda Molner

Hi Barb,

I've found "Once Were Warriors" to be a very powerful and impactful film that looks at all sorts of issues, including family/spousal violence. Here is a link to learn more:

All the best,
Tracey Young

Hi Barb. Here's a couple that come to mind:

“North Country” (Warner Brothers, 2005) – film with Charlize Theron and from the director of “Whale Rider”. It's based on the book “Class Action: The Story of Lois Jenson and the Landmark Case That Changed Sexual Harassment Law” (Bingham & Ganglier). You can view the trailer at

“One Minute to Nine” (HBO, 2007) – a documentary about Wendy Maldonado from Oregon who experienced years of domestic violence in her family – check out a clip from the documentary at

Best wishes with your discussion group!

James Freeman

Have you checked out “Tough Guise” by Jackson Katz?

Susana Guardado

How about the one that was put out by the Ending Violence Association in collaboration with our CFL football team the BC Lions "Be More Than A Bystander" with quarterback Travis Lulay or “Killing us Softly 3” or “Tough Guise”.

Hope that helps.

Tamara Aspell

Thanks to the website:

Anger and Forgiveness:
An Unfinished Life
Anger Management
Changing Lanes
Dolores Clairborne
Straight Story, The
Upside of Anger, The
Sexual Abuse:
A Thousand Acres
Black Snake Moan
Cider House Rules
Dolores Clairborne
Mystic River
Domestic Violence and Rape:
Accused, The
Burning Bed, The
Closet Land
Cry for Help: The Tracey Thurman Story
Frankie and Johnnie
Men Don't Tell
Once Were Warriors
Rape and Marriage: The Rideout Case
Rape of Richard Beck, The
She Said No
Sleeping with the Enemy
Taking Back My Life: The Nancy Ziegenmeyer Story
Thelma and Louise
Abuse and Childhood Trauma:
A Thousand Acres
Antwone Fisher
Bastard Out of Carolina
Cider House Rules
Closet Land
Crazy Heart
Drugstore Cowboy, The
Gone Baby Gone
Good Will Hunting
I Know My First Name Is Steven
Mommie Dearest
Number 23, The
Prince of Tides, The
Radio Flyer
Slumdog Millionaire
Something About Amelia
Three Faces of Eve
Ulee's Gold
Ultimate Betrayal
Upside of Anger, The

Donna Wilson

Hi Barbara,

I recently used the film 'Precious' which had a significant impact on the young people I work with. The story is really heavy but with the message being that despite adversity a person can survive and positively affect the lives of others! Suggest you watch it first though to gauge the appropriateness of it.

Shaun Conroy
Residential Worker

Hi Barbara,

I work in the field of Intimate Partner Violence and there are three movies that we use in our "Journey Of Two Wolves "program which is a 12 week Men's intervention program. The movies are older but still have a message that is effective in our work. The movies are, "It's not like I hit her", The "Crowned Prince" and "Fire proof”. I hope this helps.

All the best
Bernadette Poirier

‘The Accused’ starring Jody Foster, based on true story of woman who was gang raped in a local bar and what she was up against when she charged the men involved. This was ground breaking at the time, but l am sure it stands the test of time. The woman was blamed for what she wore, that she was under the influence and her behavior (flirting and dancing) prior to the rape.

Michelle Corbett

For a domestic violence specific movie the most powerful one that comes to mind is ‘Sleeping with the Enemy’ I saw it years ago and it still evokes a somatic effect. It's dramatic but powerful.

One of my favourite movies with a message is the ‘Grid Iron Gang’. I used this as an open book test exploration in my Counselling at Risk Youth class to explore the impact if culture, environment, and peers on at risk behaviours as well as factors contributing to resiliency.
Lori Gill,


I would suggest: "What's Love Got to do with it", 1993. Its based on the true story of Tina Turner's abusive marriage to Ike Turner. Its a real difficult watch however it touches on the subject of domestic abuse thoroughly. There would definitely be plenty discussion points.

In addition to that I can also suggest: "Safe Haven", 2013. Which is a lighter watch compared to the one above. Also on the subject of Domestic abuse.



This was a great question with great suggestions . Thanks.

Arthur John Gibson

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