I am looking to find some literature on the Child and Youth Care response to working with parents and children of parents who engage in the practice of 'overparenting' or 'helicopter parenting'.
I am finding that I am coming into contact with this type of parenting style more and more within my work at the school board and am seeking out some information on best practices with parents/guardians in terms of boundaries, communication and promoting positive parenting skills as well as best practices for working with children who have increased levels of dependency, limited problem solving skills, anxiety, concerns around attachment and responsibility.
Thank you in advance!
Child and Youth Counsellor
One of the most helpful parenting books is Kim John Payne on Simplicity Parenting. Here’s the reference:
Payne, K. J. (2010). Simplicity parenting: Using the extraordinary power of less to raise calmer, happier, and more secure kids. New York, NY: Ballentine.
It covers the themes of decluttering the environment, increasing rhythm and connection, scheduling for being and less doing, and unplugging to reduce the impact of the media. I think it addresses helicopter parenting by helping them see what do to instead.
Of course there is also Lenore Skenazy’s Free Range Kids.
Skenazy, L. (2010). Free-range kids: How to raise safe, self-reliant children without going nuts with worry. Hoboken, NJ: Jossey-Bass.
Best of luck to you!
I have worked in a few school systems and experienced this scenario as well. I have found that it can take a joint effort to reduce and diminish over-parenting. Any change in family dynamics takes time and sensitivity. Just as a child's behaviour serves a purpose, the same goes for the parent(s). There is a reason why they are "over-parenting". I like to acknowledge a parent's care for their child, instead of a message that states, "You are parenting wrong"; for in fact they do care, but may not know the best way in how to parent. In addition to this approach, speak of working together with the parent(s) towards their child's developmental health and wellbeing such as their child's independence skills/mastery over a task they cannot do alone. Having the parent(s) being part of the team in this transition can bring about a more positive experience and support the adjustment on both parent(s) and child.
I personally don't have any literature on hand but quickly found this on Google:
At the end of this article, there are links that
will allow one to explore more. I am sure there is literature out there
to be found via researching this particular topic.
Hope this helps.