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Response ability pathways: Restoring bonds of respect

Larry Brendtro and Lesley du Toit

Intimidation is an acknowledgement of the weakness of your point of view. — Archbishop Desmond Tutu

The effectiveness of “get tough” approaches is greatly exaggerated. A colleague 105 described how the Irish Republican Army [IRA] tried in vain to control youthful car thieves, called “joy riders,” with the most severe punishments imaginable. The IRA would drive these boys from the community, but they returned. Families would be threatened. When all else failed, youth would be taken out and “knee-capped” with a bullet fired through each leg to cripple them. But as soon as the joy riders could hobble out of the hospital with casts and crutches, they would defiantly steal another car. Punishment only fuelled “angry pride” and hardened hatred of punishers.

Punishment motivates rebellion rather than teaching responsible self-control 106. Young people with histories of abuse by adults construe coercive discipline as hostile attacks. 107 Punishment reinforces the bias that the world is hostile and respect must be gained by threat and coercion. 108

Coercive discipline can complicate racial distrust. Leon Fulcher of New Zealand suggests that such treatment can threaten “cultural safety” when dealing with youth who come from backgrounds, such as Maori, where discipline is based on respect.109 Those who lack understanding of youth from other cultures are also more likely to be threatened by challenging behaviour and respond in ways that cause racial conflict. 110

Coercive discipline triggers powerful stress reactions sparking fear and frustration. 111 Hostile criticism stirs angry feelings. Restraint and isolation are highly destructive to mental health. The immediate brain effects of coercive conflicts can endure for many hours, keeping the individual on edge and hyper-reactive to provocation. Recurrent coercive treatment can cause permanent changes in personality as persons develop reactive patterns of defensiveness or hostility.

Coercive discipline models bullying. Studies in natural camp settings showed that children subjected to autocratic adult leaders reproduce this pattern among their own peers. When not directly supervised by authority, the youngsters expressed hostility for their adult leaders and bullied and scapegoated weaker youngsters. 112

Decades of research show that coercion propels youngsters on the pathway to problem behaviour. When a child is in distress, the responsive adult acts to meet the child’s needs and calms the child.113 But if caregivers react with hostility – or if they indulge tantrums – the dance of disturbance begins. Participants in coercive cycles display negative behaviour, emotions, and thinking towards one another. 114

Coercive discipline contaminates the relationship between a troubled young person and those who could provide positive guidance. Social control comes from positive social bonds to family, elders, school staff, mentors, and positive peers. 115 These relationships are protective factors that prevent high risk behaviour.

Punishment packs a punch by causing physical, social, or emotional pain. Paradoxically, problem behaviour springs from physical, emotional, or social pain. While the threat of punishment may compel compliance, it does little to build the strengths of youth.

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Cunningham, J. (2003). A “cool pose”: Cultural perspectives on conflict management. Reclaiming Children and Youth, 12(2), 88-92. For training programs to address problems of racism, see: Newkirk, R. & Rutstein, N. (2000). Racial healing. Albion, MI: National Resource Center for the Healing of Racism.

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Travis Hirschi is the leading theorist on the relationship between social bonding and social control. See: Akers, R., & Sellers, C. (2004). Criminological theories: introduction, evaluation, and application. Los Angeles, CA: Roxbury Publishers.

Brendtro, L. and du Toit, L. (2005). Response Ability Pathways: Restoring Bonds of Respect. Cape Town: Pretext Publishers

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