Dear Teacher,
I would like to introduce you to my son, Wind-Wolf. He is probably what you would consider to be a typical Indian kid. He was born and raised on the reservation. He has black hair, dark brown eyes, and an olive complexion. And like so many Indian children of his age, he is shy and quiet in the classroom. He is 5 years old, in kindergarten, and I can’t understand why you have already labelled him a “slow learner.” At the age of 5, he has already been through quite an education compared with his peers in Western society. As his first introduction into this world, he was bonded to his mother and to the Mother Earth in a traditional native childbirth ceremony. And he has been continuously cared for by his mother, father, sisters, cousins, aunts, uncles, grandparents, and extended tribal family since this ceremony. From his mother’s warm and loving arms, Wind-Wolf was placed in a secure and specially designed Indian baby basket ... the traditional Indian baby basket became his “turtle’s shell” and served as the first seat for his classroom ...
Rich development
		Although you in Western society may argue that such a method serves to 
		hinder motor-skill development and abstract reasoning, we believe it 
		forces the child to first develop his intuitive faculties, rational 
		intellect, symbolic thinking, and five senses. Wind-Wolf was with his 
		mother constantly, closely bonded physically, as she carried him on her 
		back or held him in front while breast-feeding. She carried him 
		everywhere she went, and every night he slept with both parents. Because 
		of this, Wind-Wolf’s educational setting was not only a “secure” environment, but it was also very colourful, complicated, sensitive, and 
		diverse ...
... Wind-wolf was with his mother in South Dakota while she danced for seven days straight in the hot sun, fasting, and piercing herself in the sacred Sun Dance Ceremony of a distant tribe. He has been doctored in a number of different healing ceremonies ... And he has already been exposed to many different religions of his racial brothers: Protestant, Catholic, Asian Buddhist, and Tibetan Lamaist.
His aunts and grandmothers taught him to count and know his numbers while they sorted out the complex materials used to make the abstract designs in the native baskets. He listened to his mother count each and every bead and sort out numerically according to colour while she painstakingly made complex beaded belts and necklaces ... I realize he may be slow in grasping the methods and tools that you are now using in your classroom, ones which may be quite familiar to his white peers, but I hope you will be patient with him. It takes him time to adjust to a new cultural system.
Culturally different
		He is not culturally “disadvantaged,” but he is culturally “different”. If you ask him how many months there are in a year, he will probably 
		tell you 13. He will respond this way not because he doesn’t know how to 
		count properly, but because he has been taught by our traditional people 
		that there are 13 full moons in a year according to the native tribal 
		calendar and that there are really 13 planets in our solar system and 13 
		tail feathers on a perfectly balanced eagle, the most powerful kind of 
		bird to use in ceremony and healing.
... All these influences together make him somewhat 
		shy and quiet “and perhaps “slow” according to your standards.
		
		But if Wind-Wolf was not prepared for his tentative foray into your 
		world, neither were you appreciative of his culture.
		
		On the first day of class, you had difficulty with his name. You wanted 
		to call him Wind, insisting that Wolf somehow must be his middle name 
		...
Yesterday, for the third time in two weeks, he came 
		home crying and said he wanted to have his hair cut. He said he doesn’t have any friends at school because they make fun of his long hair. I 
		tried to explain to him that in our culture, long hair is a sign of 
		masculinity and balance, and is a source of power ...
		
		Now he refuses to sing his native songs, play with his Indian artifacts, 
		learn his language, or participate in his sacred ceremonies. When I ask 
		him to go to an urban powwow or help me with a sacred sweat-lodge 
		ritual, he says no because “that’s weird” and he doesn’t want his 
		friends at school to think he doesn’t believe in God ...
Sharing, not changing 
		I want my child to succeed in school and in life. I don’t want him to be 
		a drop-out or juvenile delinquent or to end up on drugs and alcohol 
		because he is made to feel inferior or because of discrimination. I want 
		him to be proud of his rich heritage and culture, and I would like him 
		to develop the necessary capabilities to adapt to and succeed in both 
		cultures. But I need your help.
		
		... All I ask that you work with me, not against me to help educate my 
		child in the best way. If you don’t have the knowledge, preparation, 
		experience, or training to effectively deal with culturally different 
		children, I am willing to help you ...
My Indian child has a constitutional right to learn, 
		retain, and maintain his heritage and culture. By the same token, I 
		strongly believe that non-Indian children also have to learn about our 
		heritage and culture, because Indians play a significant part in the 
		history of Western society.
		My son, Wind-Wolf, is not an empty glass coming into your classroom to 
		be filled. He is a full basket coming into a different environment with 
		something special to share. Please let him share his knowledge, 
		heritage, and culture with you and his peers.
This feature: Lake, R. (1998). Introducing my son. Child and Youth Care, 16 (6). 
		Originally from Teacher Magazine.