O'Grady says: Go somewhere quiet, sit down
for ten minutes, pick up a pencil.
Kathy Mitchell says: Burn-out often has a
lot to do with our expecting all the wrong things as child care workers.
Look at these ten examples and try to get real about some of your faulty
Expectations for the kids
My presence will make all the difference in the world to the kids in
Expectations for oneself
By performing services for the kids I will not only bring about
change for them but I will also enhance my own status and
recognition by others.
Expectations of simple solutions
Enthusiastic workers apply superficial remedies hoping to change
long-standing and deeply ingrained patterns of coping. (A
psychologist commented: I used to think that people would change if
you just spoke to them reasonably... I had no idea how much people
Expectations of universal success
When we enter the field we do not realise that we will not be able
to reach every child nor that some kids will not be helped no
matter who works with them.
Expectations of immediate success
We have a few tricks up our sleeve; we think we know just the
solution for this problem. We need to learn to accept that problems
which have built up over years cannot be solved in a day.
Expectations of client motivation
Many of us extend ourselves in helping others without stopping to
ask whether they really want to be helped.
Expectations of control
"I will be able to socialise them into behaviour which creates less
anxiety for them" together with Of course they will respect my
Expectations of appreciation
People who do things for others think that they will naturally be
appreciated by the people they help. But appreciation requires that
the kids agree that the services we perform are beneficial.
Expectations of specific, concrete tasks
I will be told exactly what to do in order to carry out my
day-to-day tasks. I will be taught and will be able to learn all
of the theory and skills I need.
Expectations of a rewarding work
I will work in a creative and supporting team. Not for me having to
learn to cope in such conditions as isolation, confusion,
loneliness, tension, divided responsibility.
How did you score?
Feel any better?