Listen to thisA new Community Service Foundation (CSF) school has
just been launched in Hungary “its goal: to implement restorative
practices with delinquent and at-risk youth in that country. The school,
which opened January 6, 2003 in Budapest, is funded by grants from CSF
and the International Institute for Restorative Practices (IIRP) in the
United States and the Hungarian Ministry of Children, Youth and Sports.
The Hungarian Ministries of Justice and of Social and Family Affairs are
also supporting the school as “a model for institutions to work with
children with problems or at risk,” said Vidia Negrea, the school’s director. The CSF school represents an important turning point for
Hungary. As a matter of course, delinquent youth in that country have
been removed from their home environment and housed in reformatories or
other special institutions, put on probation or jailed. Negrea
explained: “There is no law in Hungary supporting day treatment.” She
hopes that the school will give troubled youth a better chance to
reintegrate into society by providing an alternative approach in their
own community. A new law will take effect in June acknowledging the need
for services provided by NGOs (non-government organizations), in effect
encouraging entities like CSF Hungary.
Working as a psychologist at the largest, oldest boys” reformatory in
Europe, in Aszod, Hungary, Negrea saw that the methods in use there
weren’t working. Research data on 500 boys showed that six months after
leaving the reformatory, 75 percent had reoffended. Data analysis
revealed that the boys who had most closely followed reformatory rules
had reoffended sooner and more often than others.
Boys at the reformatory told Negrea that they were scared to go home,
afraid of being labeled for life as “bad” and terrified of meeting the
victims of their crimes and their families. To address this fear, she
asked 100 students in her care to write an imaginary letter to their
victims. Their heartfelt, remorseful letters had Negrea and her
colleagues in tears. Some boys wrote real letters to their victims,
apologizing for the harm they had done to them and their families and
offering any help they might provide. This was the first time Negrea
felt she came close to fulfilling people’s needs, both victims and
offenders, instead of just administering punishment.
Negrea received her first training in restorative practices when Beth
Rodman and Paul McCold of the IIRP came to Hungary. She was thrilled to
finally find a framework for dealing with troubled youth similar to her
experience with the letter-writing project at the reformatory. She later
spent a year doing hands-on training in restorative practices at CSF
schools in Pennsylvania and was determined to bring the fruits of her
training back to Eastern Europe.
She also appreciated the restorative work environment created for the
staff, where mutual support was a workplace priority. Said Negrea: “My
friends and colleagues at home deserve a place where they are happy to
come to work, even with the most difficult students. Here at CSF, I
realized it was possible.”
At first, Negrea wasn’t confident that she could lead such an effort.
Near the end of her stay in the United States, CSF/IIRP president Ted
Wachtel suggested that Negrea try being a supervisor. When she served as
a substitute supervisor at two CSF schools, she gained confidence
working in new settings. “It was a great opportunity to see what I had
learned and how my learning would apply elsewhere,” she noted.
The key to the work, Negrea discovered, “was not about being
knowledgeable about everything happening in each particular school and
having all the answers, but about using the same way of working with
people and being responsible and respectful with people. The structure
and philosophy were the same.” Negrea realized that her work in Hungary
would be based on implementing the same structure and philosophy.
When she went home to Hungary in 2001, Negrea quit her two jobs: as a
psychologist at the boys” reformatory, and at the National Institute for
Family and Children, and began to try to introduce restorative
practices. Some of Negrea’s colleagues told her that Hungary wasn’t ready for those methods. “It’s not America,” they said. But Negrea
understood that restorative practices were “not based on American
culture, but on relationships between people.”
Negrea drew on her existing relationships with people in social services “students, probation officers, teachers, administrators, police “and “made a lot of noise” about why restorative practices are important. She
was then asked to do trainings for government institutions that wanted
to make changes. “I used to be sent in as an expert to say why things
weren’t going well,” said Negrea, adding, “They expected me to report on
how to change or close the institutions.”
Instead, Negrea did two-day Introduction to Restorative Practices
trainings with all the employees at several institutions, “not just
teachers and counselors, but the gatekeeper, the cook, the director.” Negrea told them: “If you really want to change, you have to think about
how you can work together, otherwise, they’re going to close you down.”
Negrea was struck by how quickly people understood the practices she
introduced. “Very simple people can understand in hours that it’s their
responsibility to change the institution,” she said. The institutions
stayed open and are now using restorative circles. In one big group
home, a semi-secure unit “where children are sent because nobody else
can deal with them,” the staff is using circles for themselves and with
the children. At first it was strange for the staff to discuss their
problems with each other. They were accustomed to blaming each other and
relying on a hierarchy. But now they are expressing their issues openly
and the children are developing their own group “norms” “standards for
behavior.
Negrea also did restorative practices presentations for prosecutors,
judges, lawyers, probation officers, schoolteachers and administrators “people who will refer children to her CSF school. She used IIRP training
videos and overhead projections, which had been translated into
Hungarian, as well as interactive exercises.
To elucidate the social discipline window, which
illustrates the concepts of TO, FOR, NOT, and WITH, she tried an
exercise at one of her presentations that was originally developed in a
CSF Professional Learning Group. Dividing the participants into four
groups, she gave each group the same simple task to perform (drawing a
flower). She then did NOT do anything and completely neglected one group
(little support or control); did the entire task FOR another (high
support, little control); dictated TO another group exactly what to do
(high control, little support); and gave the WITH group the help they
needed, but let them perform the task themselves.
By the end of the exercise, the participants had obtained a thorough,
visceral understanding of the restorative paradigm. People in the
neglected group felt hurt because they were being ignored. Those in the
FOR group sat there and did nothing, upset that they had no input. The
TO group members were angry and resentful at being told what to do. The
people in the WITH group were happy and productive, having been treated
restoratively: that is, with both high support and high control.
In all, the restorative practices presentations went
extremely well. “I was amazed,” said Negrea, adding: “Nobody wanted to
break for lunch; they wanted to keep going.” Instruction in Hungary is
traditionally very intellectual and theoretical, said Negrea. The
restorative practices trainings, in contrast, were dynamic and
interactive, based on real practice and understanding through action and
reflection.
The trainings were a revelation. One teacher said that, deep inside, she
had always known about the concepts Negrea had shared, but had never had
the words for them, never known how simple and obvious they could be.
Said Negrea: “I wanted the authorities to realize that they needed the
program.”
Negrea’s strategy has been working. At her last presentation for police,
some of them realized that they had been talking on the phone about the
same students for a long time without ever meeting each other. They
talked about their need to start working with each other, and not just
in a formal way. “Like a small but good virus, it’s spreading,” said
Negrea. The idea is to disseminate restorative practices everywhere. “Children at the new school will take what they learn home with them and
it will affect their families,” said Negrea.
Negrea hired Erika Bognar, a young Hungarian woman, as her first CSF
staff member. Bognar had six weeks of training at the CSF school in
Bethlehem. Despite initial language difficulties, she felt that she
learned a great deal about restorative practices to bring back to her
country, and was able to work with Negrea on plans for the opening of
CSF Hungary. A third staff member, Laszlo Gupcsi, was hired more
recently as a counselor and math, science and art teacher, and there are
plans to hire more staff as the school expands.
The school now has four students, with more on the way. The four are
ages 13 “16, all children at risk who were expelled from school: two
who had used drugs, one with a criminal record and one with truancy
problems. All are doing very well at CSF Hungary. These are kids who
never wanted to come to school, but now they come on time every day,
even during heavy snowstorms. They help each other get up in the morning
by calling each other on the phone. “It’s a tough group,” said Negrea,
but she feels that the kids and the staff are making great progress
together.
“we’re doing exactly the same things we did at the CSF school in
Bethlehem,” said Negrea: “The same schedule, the same group structure,
the same questions, the same “feelings poster.” “And it’s all working.
Kids are confronting each other and taking responsibility for themselves
and each other. “I thought it would be more difficult,” said Negrea.
But, she said, “the tough kids feel respected, so they have no reason to
be disrespectful to the staff or to each other.”
Feedback from parents has been extremely positive. Negrea delighted
parents by inviting them to attend intake interviews, along with the
students and caseworkers. One parent exclaimed: “You mean we are going
to be in the same room with our children and their social workers?” Said
Negrea: “From the beginning, they have seen restorative practices and
have been part of the program. Everybody had the chance to speak up.” It’s also a new thing for parents to be called with positive news from
their children's school, a “good surprise” for them, said Negrea. One
mother said that she never thought that her boy would go to school “that he never went before without being pushed.
Feedback from caseworkers has been positive, as well. Most caseworkers
didn’t believe students would come to the program. Now, said Negrea, “every day we are being viewed more and more seriously.” Students are
being referred to the school from group homes all over Budapest. Soon,
they will have from 12 to 15 kids. Negrea wants to keep the maximum at
15 for now.
Negrea is hopeful that restorative practices will be good for Hungary. “Like every other country that was under the socialists for so many
years,” she said, “somebody always decided FOR you what you had to do,
or told you what TO do.” For that reason, she thinks, the notion of
doing things WITH people will be especially beneficial for Hungary.
(Socialism is not a bad thing in and of itself, Negrea believes, but it
became an unsound system because people abused power.) “Restorative
practices will be a good tool to help people develop fair relationships
between people,” she said. “Hungary needs that,” she said, “and not just
Hungary!”
“Some people are waiting for a miracle,” said Negrea, “but I need to
remember that it’s not all me, it’s up to them, too. The referral
sources “everyone.” In the candid spirit of restorative practices, “We’ll be open for everybody,” she said, adding, “The Ministry of
Justice is already planning to visit.” Ultimately, sustained by the
knowledge that she has the full support of CSF and the IIRP behind her,
Negrea declared: “I’m sure it’s going to work.”
This feature: Mirsky, L. (2003) A New Reality for Troubled Youth in Hungary: An Update. International Institute for Restorative Practices. http://www.iirp.org/library/csfhungary.html
